On days when you feel insecure, let down, or depressed, try not to do too many things. Just like needing to rest, or eat, or to feel stronger, you need to build up your confidence, again.

But how do you do that?

The simple answer is to keep promises you make . . .certainly to others by doing what you say you will do, but especially promises you make to yourself.

When you are disappointed by things, or people, or circumstances, you can easily get depressed. Wondering how to get over something that you didn’t expect to happen is something in your power to do. You just need to want to do it. It is a choice.

Most disappointments come from expecting a certain outcome and when it doesn’t happen, you lose faith in other people.

But don’t lose faith in yourself.

The best way to become confident is to keep your own promises: Do something you said you would do; make a call when you promised you would; finish a project as agreed; be someplace you promised to be.

That simple act of keeping your promises will build your own self-confidence as someone who can be trusted. Not just by others, but also by yourself.

When that happens, and you know you are a person who can be trusted to keep their word, that is how to build your own self-confidence.

Keeping your promises makes you respect yourself, which makes you like yourself better. Liking yourself is the first step to loving others. Loving others can only happen when you care about yourself first.  

Trust me, I know.